“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
Forgiveness can be a difficult thing. There are some deep hurts and pains that aren’t easy to get over. Ephesians 4:32 gives us three straight forward commands from God. Be kind, compassionate, and forgiving. Being kind and compassionate are left at just that, but He gives us further instructions on how to forgive. We are supposed to forgive others the same way that Christ forgave us. How did Christ forgave us? Romans 5:8 tells us that.
“While we were still sinners.” Not once we were nice and kind and loving and treated God like the God He is. While we were still living away from Him in sin, He died for us. He calls us to treat others that same way. Even if the other person is not sorry, or they are still trying to hurt us more than they already have, we are still called in Ephesians to forgive the way God forgives us.
You are only responsible for your own actions. Forgiveness doesn’t exist only when everyone affected apologizes and everyone else forgives. Forgiveness as far as you are concerned, is that you apologize when you need to apologize, and you forgive when others hurt you, whether they are sorry or not. You do everything you can to make things right, but you are only responsible for your own actions, not theirs. This is definitely not an easy process, but you have an almighty God to walk through it with you.